I can tell you this much: After 3 o'clock in the afternoon, the last thing I feel is beautiful. I rarely go out in the late afternoon, typically declining invitations for get-togethers and networking events. I'm not saying I *never* leave the house at that time of day, but I definitely pick and choose. I'm on the board for the Center for Women, and yesterday, we had a meeting at 5:30. So around 4:30, I loaded the kids in the car and drove from West Ashley to Mount Pleasant to drop the kids off at my husband's office. Then I got back in the car and drove from Mount Pleasant to downtown Charleston to make the 5:30 meeting.
"I just made a giant loop around Charleston," I thought to myself as I drove over the Ravenel Bridge. And then I realized something else: I didn't think twice about traveling in a big circle. To me, the Center for Women is worth leaving the house an hour early. This group of women is worth the extra miles.
When I entered the meeting, right on time, I fully understood why. Being a part of this organization fills me up. It enhances my life. After I said my hellos, I excused myself to the restroom. Because, you know, pregnant women have to pee every 5 minutes. And when I walked into the bathroom, I found this taped to the bathroom mirror:
And just seeing that note, right there, greeting me, like it was written for me did exactly what it was intended to do. I stood taller and felt confident and gorgeous. And then I remembered I had to pee and it sort of killed the mood, but you get my point?
With each passing year, I find myself getting more selective about how I spend my time and the types of people I allow into my life. I consciously try to fill my life with those people and things that bring out the light inside of me. Being more selective does not limit me. In fact, it has opened up the world. By surrounding myself with light, it helps me be a light for others.
So today, remember:
If you are confident, you are beautiful.
Stand tall, smile,
and show the world what your gorgeous self can do.
If you're a guy, and this language doesn't resonate with you, feel free to substitute "beautiful" with "badass" and "gorgeous" with "good-looking".