The details are vague. I'm being vague on purpose. And I'm breaking grammar rules, calling an individual "they". They know who they are, and the specifics of what we were talking about that day boils down to this:
"They" asked me how I felt about it.
And I said, "I don't know how I feel about it."
And they said, "Well, you need to figure out how you feel about it."
I was 18 years old. I wasn't sure if I knew how to have feelings without first considering how those feelings would affect someone else.
But this person insisted. "You need to know. And if you don't know, you need to take the time to sort it out."
Since then, I've learned that I can control how I act. I can be considerate in how I respond. I can speak my mind or zip my lips. But first, I need to know how I feel. I have feelings, and they matter. I know that now. I don't dismiss them anymore. Feelings can change. But when I sit with them long enough, they guide me.
I strive to do the right thing. But the most important thing--to me--has been learning how to do what feels right.
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