what children teach us

Two years and another child later, this post originally published on May 24, 2008 reminds me not much has changed.

Anyone who knows my 2-year-old, Dillon, knows that I have my hands full. He, in my totally biased opinion, has an amazing personality and is so cute I could bite his nose right off his face. But, many times, I think I love him best when he is sleeping. I expend so much energy trying to get him to go to bed. From day one, that has been my biggest first-time mom challenge.

Ironically, Dillon manages to teach me the art of being still. “Mommy, sit.” He points at the couch.

“Dillon, I can’t. But I’ll be back in just a second.”

Again, he persists. “Mommy, sit!” He doesn’t care that there’s something boiling over on the stove. He just wants me to be in the room with him.

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the best laid plans…

It’s twenty days until the 2010 Moms’ Run and I’m trying not to hyperventilate. There’s something about planning a major event that is very fulfilling… it’s amazing to see all the hard work come together and take on a life of its own. But that’s also what’s so scary about it. Doing something so big requires a lot of planning, a lot of forward thinking, a lot of anticipating things that may go wrong. But on race day, I will have to shift gears and go with the flow. It will be a true exercise in living in the moment.

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"if today was your last day"

I completely forgot what I set out to blog about today when I read Sherri’s comment on my last post. Sherri lost a child 10 years ago, a heartbreaking reminder to always be present, to live fully in the precious moments we are given. I aspire to keep my eyes open in the “now”, while maintaining unyielding hope and faith in the future.

Losing videos of my son’s birth– which feels a little less traumatic this week than it did last– made me aware of the truth Sherri spoke of in her comment. Life inevitably brings heartbreak– and the thought of “loss” in any form can send my world into a tailspin. But instead of focusing on the somber fact that our daily lives are temporary… perhaps we can focus on how abundant our existence can be when we stop taking our days, our time here, for granted?

If you follow this blog, you know I love song references. I found this song by Nickelback on YouTube… the lyrics are revealed on the screen and may bring you a new perspective as you face your day. If it speaks to you… post your comments!

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go geeks!

I learned some hard lessons last week.

When I get really busy, stressed and rushed, I make really BIG mistakes. Like, do a complete system restore on my computer to fix a bug… a restore that returned my computer back to the factory settings. Which would have been fine IF I had properly backed-up my hard drive (which I didn’t.) And I’m keeping it real, I fell to my knees and cried when I realized the videos of baby Blake were gone. 

Grief hurts like nothing else. 

In the midst of my despair, a couple of friends would not let me accept that the videos were lost forever. I resisted their comments at first. I was like, “Stop. It. REALLY, they are.”  

I think that’s when I was kidnapped by aliens, because Friday, I found myself at Best Buy, talking to a member of the Geek Sqaud. Before I knew it, I was scanning my debit card for $60 to have my computer shipped off to a team of experts who can apparently find data that mere mortals have “deleted.”

I do have faith in their abilities, although I’m going to remain cautiously optimistic. Perhaps they’ll find my videos behind some trap door in my hard drive. Perhaps it will cost eleventy million dollars to retrieve. Who knows? But at least I’m doing something.

When I lost the videos, I told myself my memories are constant. I remembered that I am gifted with the ability to write, and one day I’ll be able to share those stories with Blake. I told myself cherished moments are recorded each time I’m fully present, awake and engaged in my life. And I still believe that.

But I also believe if I feel strongly about something, I must take action. I believe in chasing pavements, even if it ultimately, it leads “no where.” I don’t need too many ”things” but if there is a chance some geek can recover my videos, well then, I have to try.

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I have no love for the computer right now, which is ironic because here I sit. This week, I permanently deleted (accidentally) the video files from baby Blake’s first three months of life. What struck me was the extreme sense of loss I felt… there’s no way I can go back and recreate those moments. I have photos, but I can’t hear the cries or the buzz of excited chatter that filled the room when he arrived into this world. There are so many things that will now be left to the imagination, my memories…

Everything I love about this life is merely on loan to me. Having children magnifies how quickly things change. They are growing so quickly… sometimes it all feels like a blur. I try to capture the magic with videos and photos, but now I’m painfully aware of the false sense of security that provides.

In a strange way, “the computer malfunction of 2009″ did me a favor. It was a real, raw, snap-to-the-present experience. I’m reminded to open my eyes. Watch. Pay attention. Love fully and feel deeply. Participate in my life– don’t merely snap photos and document occasions, in hopes of catching it later.

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Today is my birthday. This weekend, I celebrated with my family. I made a wish when I blew out the candles, and I ain’t gonna lie, it will be totally awesome if (when) it comes true.

But today, I say a prayer of gratitude. I ask for nothing. Where I am today, in this stage in my life, is exactly where I’m supposed to be.

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Stay gold, ponyboy

When I was in middle school, some of my best girlfriends became obsessed with the movie The Outsiders. It was actually this scene,where Ponyboy recites Robert Frost’s poem, Nothing Gold Can Stay. So as children, we made a pact to remind each other to Stay Gold. What’s amazing, is that these girls are still some of my very best friends. Our playground conversations inspired my latest essay for Hybrid Mom. You may want to read it if:

-you rely on coffee to start your day

-you’re a parent

-you want to start your holiday weekend remembering what’s truly important in your life.

Click here to read Coffee Pot of Gold. If you like it, please let the folks at Hybrid Mom know by posting your comments under the essay.

Happy Labor Day, and remember to Stay Gold.

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